Should children be compared to others as a form of motivation?

[eLdavis]

Overtime i have come across parents comparing their children to other children, according to them, this is a way to motivate the child to do better, personally i feel this often has a negative effect. This often leads to hatred amongst the children, and worse case high level of self doubt and insecurity. What's your take on this?

 

[Sanjeev]

This is not good to compare a kid with other kid because everyone has his/her own capabilities. I know it feels bad as a parent when your kid doesn't perform better than other kids in any field, but that's fine. We should try our kid to do his/her best. We must always motivate our kids and try let to know his/her potential.

 

[Nomad]

I compare my kid with others in order to encourage him to do better and inspire him to attempt. However, I also frequently praise him for his achievement. I create a balance and I believe my kid is not under pressure for being compared. I think comparing is good as long as it is done in a healthy way

 

[Kennysplash]

This is a really terrible way of parenting, and I would not want to do this to any of my children. I experienced it while growing up and it was quite horrible to be honest. There are other great ways to motivate and inspire the kids and that is just not one of them.

 

[KrissyCakes09]

Children should never be compared to anyone as they are not those people they are there own individuals.

 

[uptrendfinancialsignal]

I do not like the notion of children being compared to others. It can make some of them to work harder, but it may also destroy their confidence. I was raised in that way too. My mom would say, look at what so and so did and it truly affects me. Encouragement is better than comparison in so many ways.

 

[Ginger]

It's not a good idea to compare and does only bad to the kid but at the end of the day, how will you compare your kids performance ultimately you need to compare even if you like it or not